Our Online Counseling Sessions are back!

(For appointments, please email - contact@drshreya.com. Please note that the counseling sessions are conducted in one of the following languages only - English / Hindi / Marathi / Kannada) 

Since last 2 years, at drshreya.com, counseling sessions were not conducted due to varied reasons, some personal and some professional. But thanks to the patronage of our patients and friends, we kept getting queries about the same, asking when we are going to restart. Good news is that from June 2019, we have restarted our counseling sessions for all the age groups as earlier.

Here are the pointers --

·         As our patients / clients / friends know, we have a protocol according to which we first choose the patients that opt for counseling; whether they actually require counseling or mere medicinal line of treatment is enough for them, along with some auxiliary measures that are suggested. Please keep in mind that the counseling is inclusive of physical, mental and emotional conflicts in all age groups.

·         Once the patient is slotted for counseling, they are given the means of counseling –

(1) Online through video counseling or

(2) Telephonic counseling or

(3) Email counseling

·         Time slots are provided as per the convenience of the patients.

·         Patients are suggested to give their brief history and the reason for which they have opted for this service so that during counseling we do not lose much time in the primary data collection. This has to be done by patients in written format and sent to contact@drshreya.com.

·         After the completion of formalities, the sessions are conducted, during which a thorough analysis and evaluation of the problem is done and depending upon the outcome and the satisfaction of the patient, repeat session / treatment / or any other line of therapy is suggested.

So, let’s begin the journey towards a healthy body, mind and psyche, because the balance and harmony among these three is the only means to attain Real Health!

My Sincere Namaste to All!

Regards,

Dr Shreya

Importance of Mental and Emotional Harmony in Auxiliary Line of Treatment --

A good physician never stresses on medicine alone. In fact, medicine comes at second place after correcting the faults in the lifestyle of the patient. And if one wishes to have speedy recovery and lasting results, the auxiliary line of treatment suggested by the doctor is of utmost importance.

The auxiliary regime includes various dietary corrections, corrections on the plane of physical fitness and most importantly, dealing with the mental and emotional faculty of human existence. Of course the homeopathic medicine given on the basis of constitution of the patient does cater this faculty very well; however, as said, maintaining cause has to be nullified as much as possible for the medicine to act favorably. If a person is being treated for common cold and if he does not refrain from drenching himself in rains frequently, the medicine will not help. Similarly, if a physician is treating, for example, migraine, the triggers for migraine like mental and emotional disturbances have to be taken into account. Even if your medicine will eventually help him or her feel at ease on mental plane, little persuasion by the doctor and counseling can help him deal with the various situations more proactively and minimize his stress levels to great extent.

I often tend to give more attention to this aspect while I treat my cases homeopathically. Being a homeopath in itself makes us more aware of people’s psychological tendencies, attitudes and reactions. Rather, it is the base upon which we treat most of the cases. Therefore, I often give certain goals for the patients to look into and study themselves over a period of time. It is a worth exercise; that’s what most patients’ feedback is. As we homeopaths earnestly feel that our science and art of healing should help more and more people to rise above the so called rat race of the world and focus on uplifting oneself with many others, here are the certain aspects one can study and introspect upon in order to maintain the mind- body equilibrium –

(1) How optimistic I am? – Under this category, there are 2 sub-categories --

Do I count my blessings? – This is one of the most loved and helpful tips for my patients. The patients are supposed to write down daily the smallest possible positive things in their life on paper and read it every day before retiring to bed. They can keep on adding the things till the mind becomes vacant of negative aspects. Slowly but surely it helps us immensely to value the smallest things bestowed upon us by the Higher Power / nature / whatever you want to call it. Isn’t just the power to breathe supreme blessing?

How often I complain? – Under this category, patient needs to keep aside just a day and with mindful attention on that day, he / she is supposed to write the smallest instances when we utter complaining words. Right from “Still the sweeper has not arrived!! L” to “Why doesn’t the government take appropriate action?”… there are literally n number of instances when all of us create hormonal imbalances in our body by complaining about the things that are either not in our hand or without working to do something about it. We do not realize that these small instances of disapproval / disharmony / disgust are the pioneers of our future hypertensions, diabetes, strokes, heart diseases, so on and so forth. Therefore, this exercise done at regular intervals helps us realize the futility of such complaints and the way we should overcome this habit, at least for health purpose, if not for higher good.

(2) How do I handle stressful situations? – This is one of the most important exercises to study and introspect. One doesn’t need to have some serious situation. Just think about times when because of traffic signal, you had to wait for 2 whole minutes and your mind and heart started racing about the delay. One of the worst things in today’s world is that everyone talks about nullifying stress but everyone thinks that stress is going to be part of our lifestyle. Rather, if someone is not stressed, the people around feel sorry for him that he is not stressed because he is not doing something worthwhile in his life. How pitiful!

“Letting go” and “Acting proactively” are the two basic aspects that work wonders in stress management, provided one knows when to let go and when to act proactively. Firstly kick out the thought that stress is going to be part of our life. Then think about the instances when you went off balance and created disharmony in your body and mind. Many psychologists suggest not to think of the negative instances when we lost our balance and instead we should focus on positive. But in my opinion, the negative instances should be remembered to remedy such instances in future; only then we can focus on positive. The negative instances should be made stepping stones for positive future. That gives us another big lesson that nothing in life was futile ever!

(3) What do I do for relaxation? – You know how huge our world’s population is and that creates those many ideas for relaxation and recreation. Every person has his or her own idea of relaxation. Some may find it in friends, some in pubs, some in books, and a few in spiritual quests. Even if as a liberal, we say that no idea is void, everyone will agree to one thing that whatever path we choose, the result obtained should not prove short term but should have lasting result. That itself cuts off many options from the list. As a person wanting to have body – mind balance, we should always think of this while we engage our heart and soul in such pursuits of relaxation. This is the third exercise. With awareness of the mind, one can easily start assessing his ways of dealing with stress, handling it better and relaxing in the core without being disturbed.

There are many other aspects that can be discussed as per everyone’s problems and situations but the above three are the basic exercises every person has to undertake in order to review the precious life bestowed upon us.

The world is getting more and more aware of the psychosomatic illnesses, the diseases arising from psychological imbalances. Earlier we focus on this aspect of our personality and find lasting solution, better it is for our body, mind and spirit to be used for higher purposes of human existence!

Don’t rob your children off their right to love you!

Yesterday had a talk with one of my patients, who had brought her teenage son of 15 years for some behavioral problems. Upon questioning, the problem as often seemed to have connection to the upbringing in the previous years of his childhood.

There started the thought process about which I am writing today. As it is related to our children, certainly it’s going to have far-fetched implication in tomorrow’s world. Quite an important issue actually. Even though I will refrain from narrating the above instance as it is, on a general note, I feel, today there is problem not in the feeling of love between the housemates but it’s the expression of love that needs to be thought about. Especially when it comes to the bond between parents and their children or a child, there are certain aspects that one needs to look into—

1) We must know that pampering and material association of pampering have no relation. New age has sadly diluted the meaning of pampering to a new low. Of course, that does not mean not to gift them or present them with goodies but it means creating a firm thought in their minds not to associate gifting with love! The child, who grows up believing only in costly gifts from parents, in later years, associates not-gifting with lack of love, which is very dangerous.

Only pure love from parents can create an understanding in the minds of these young people that whatever my parents do is in the best of my interest. There is no equal to this kind of faith in the child’s mind about his or her parents. And the journey of creating this faith starts during the toddler years of the child.

2) Importance of physical affection – One of the most profound sentences by one of the leading masters in the field of adolescent problems, Carl Pickhardt, is, “Lack of hugs and cuddles during the growing years and even in the adolescent years is like letting go of a powerful non-verbal intimacy between the parents and their children.” In typical eastern societies, such show of affection even within the home is considered inappropriate at times. And truly it is one of the most important factors for ill-shaping your child’s mental and emotional quotient. It is a myth that if the child is refrained from showing emotional affection to his or her parents (especially counter-gender), he or she will have lesser sexual fantasies. The study shows exactly opposite results. The study says, if a teenage boy naturally loves to hug his mom or a daughter loves to hug her dad, they have lesser complications in their later years with their life partners. The reason is simple- They are loved and are taught to love gently!

And this journey of having natural, loving hugs and cuddles with your child begins in his or her childhood. Many times, mothers complain that their growing son no longer likes to come near her or avoids the hugs. The study concludes it differently. Even if we agree that certain traits are carried since birth, loving gently is a trait one can acquire from his or her parents through the growing years. More the parents spend quality time with their kids, understand when to move away from them (in public settings), when they actually need to be cuddled and patted, how to take care of their needs without letting them overtly pampered, and when & how to discipline them.

3) So here’s the third important point that the parents must discipline their children. We as parents must understand this simple fact that disciplining does not mean not-loving them; rather it means loving them wholeheartedly. Every man or woman who grows up under optimally disciplined parents lauds his or her parents for not letting them go astray in the later years of their life. But the word optimal is very important. It implies the right way to discipline, following what we teach, keeping all the communication channels always open and rooting a firm thought in their minds – “I am with you, come what may!”

4) Backing the expression of love by loving words – Almost all men or women who love unselfishly, at some point of time in their life are loved unselfishly by their parents. Cultivating the natural flair towards being sensitive to others starts in the childhood. We as parents define our roles as parents especially when we are bogged down by our day to day routines. These are the times when the child actually learns how to cope with stress and still be loving. There is certainly no harm in shouting at times but that shouting should be backed by the explanation and love. Shouting to take out our frustration is a big no!

There are many such small things we as parents can imbibe in ourselves first and then in our kids, only to have a great society later. Most kids that go the wrong way in their adult life have its seeds sown in their growing up years. We as parents cannot shrug off our responsibility and blame today’s bombardment of outside influences on the kids as the sole reason for the wrong path.

The change begins at home first. We should remember that the marks, grades, degrees etc may not matter in the after years but a loving gaze, a pat, a hug and a sensible grown up man or a woman does make a big difference to the society at large! And the one who is happy is successful. Period.